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Healing a Broken
Heart
"How to Use Completions to Heal Your Broken Heart"
By Susie and Otto Collins
It was almost 25 years ago that
Marsha suddenly decided to end her relationship with her lover. It wasn't until
a recent coaching session with us that she realized that she had been carrying
the guilt and pain of that broken relationship into every corner of her
life.
Why?
Because Marsha
didn't have closure with her boyfriend, she has guarded her heart since then,
sabotaging every relationship. What we have discovered from our own experiences
and from working with our coaching clients--in order to begin creating the life
and relationships that you want, it's often important to make completions.
One of the
challenges that most of us face is learning from the past, appreciating it,
leaving it in the past and focusing on the present moment. Making completions
in a loving way is one way to move into the present and start moving toward
what you want.
Does your life seem stuck?
Are there important words that
you haven't spoken to someone?
Are you still holding on to past relationships that have ended,
whether you consider them to be "failures" or not?
Are you wondering why you're not
meeting a person who could be your "perfect partner?"
If you answered "yes" to any of
these questions, there may be some completions that you need to make and here
are some suggestions:
1. Have a long-neglected conversation with the person, either in
person or with a likeness. Our coaching client Marsha contacted her old
boyfriend and apologized to him. After she did, she felt a peace that she had
not felt for many years. If you cannot or choose not to actually talk with that
person, you can make a likeness of the person with something like canned
biscuit dough and then have the conversation that you need to have with that
likeness.
In
this conversation, make sure that you thank the person for what you have
learned by being in that relationship. If possible, do this "ritual" by a lake
or river and let the likeness go in moving water, along with those old
feelings.
2. If
you need to forgive yourself or the other person, take steps toward doing so.
Remember that forgiveness is always a step toward your physical and emotional
health and does not mean that you condone what you or the other person did in
the past. When you begin to realize what you learned from that situation, you
can begin to appreciate it and to forgive.
3. Do a physical act to get rid
of constant reminders of a past relationship that keep you tied to the past. A
year after Sam left his marriage, he burned his collection of CD's which was
the music that he listened to during his painful, last years of marriage.
During the
burning, he let his old feelings go into the fire. In addition to the burning,
he stopped listening to that music that was only reinforcing the pain that he
had felt during his marriage.
After several years, he was able to listen to that music again
without those emotional ties that had been so painful for him.
4. Do a ceremony, giving thanks
for what you learned in a previous relationship and the blessings that it
brought to you. Years ago, after the two of us decided that we wanted to be
together, we chose to do a ceremony at a beautiful spot at the ocean on Bald
Head Cliffs in Maine.
We thanked our previous spouses, sent them love, threw our
wedding rings in the ocean and made a commitment to each other. This "Ring
Toss" ceremony opened us to developing the beautiful relationship that we have
built with each other.
Completions, if done in a spirit of love, can create the space
for you to move from the past and begin attracting what you want for your life.
If you are willing to appreciate the past and let it go, wonderful things just
may be in store for you in this present moment.
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Relationship coaches Susie and Otto Collins, authors of "Should You Stay or Should You Go?" and "How to Heal Your Broken
Heart" are experts at helping people get more of the love they really want.
Learn the 5 keys to a closer, more loving relationship, click below for your
free 5-part mini-course: http://www.Relationshipgold.com
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For a free mini-course on getting over a relationship breakup or
divorce,
click here.
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