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Healing a Broken Heart
"How to Use Completions to Heal Your
Broken Heart"
By Susie and Otto Collins
It
was almost 25 years ago that Marsha suddenly decided to end
her relationship with her lover. It wasn't until a recent coaching
session with us that she realized that she had been carrying
the guilt and pain of that broken relationship into every corner
of her life.
Why?
Because Marsha didn't have closure with
her boyfriend, she has guarded her heart since then, sabotaging
every relationship. What we have discovered from our own experiences
and from working with our coaching clients--in order to begin
creating the life and relationships that you want, it's often
important to make completions.
One of the challenges that most of us face
is learning from the past, appreciating it, leaving it in the
past and focusing on the present moment. Making completions
in a loving way is one way to move into the present and start
moving toward what you want.
Does your life seem stuck?
Are
there important words that you haven't spoken to someone?
Are you still holding on to past relationships
that have ended, whether you consider them to be "failures"
or not?
Are
you wondering why you're not meeting a person who could be your
"perfect partner?"
If
you answered "yes" to any of these questions, there may be some
completions that you need to make and here are some suggestions:
1. Have a long-neglected conversation
with the person, either in person or with a likeness. Our coaching
client Marsha contacted her old boyfriend and apologized to
him. After she did, she felt a peace that she had not felt for
many years. If you cannot or choose not to actually talk with
that person, you can make a likeness of the person with something
like canned biscuit dough and then have the conversation that
you need to have with that likeness.
In this conversation, make sure that you
thank the person for what you have learned by being in that
relationship. If possible, do this "ritual" by a lake or river
and let the likeness go in moving water, along with those old
feelings.
2. If you need to forgive yourself or the
other person, take steps toward doing so. Remember that forgiveness
is always a step toward your physical and emotional health and
does not mean that you condone what you or the other person
did in the past. When you begin to realize what you learned
from that situation, you can begin to appreciate it and to forgive.
3.
Do a physical act to get rid of constant reminders of a past
relationship that keep you tied to the past. A year after Sam
left his marriage, he burned his collection of CD's which was
the music that he listened to during his painful, last years
of marriage.
During the burning, he let his old feelings
go into the fire. In addition to the burning, he stopped listening
to that music that was only reinforcing the pain that he had
felt during his marriage.
After several years, he was able to
listen to that music again without those emotional ties that
had been so painful for him.
4.
Do a ceremony, giving thanks for what you learned in a previous
relationship and the blessings that it brought to you. Years
ago, after the two of us decided that we wanted to be together,
we chose to do a ceremony at a beautiful spot at the ocean on
Bald Head Cliffs in Maine.
We thanked our previous spouses, sent
them love, threw our wedding rings in the ocean and made a commitment
to each other. This "Ring Toss" ceremony opened us to developing
the beautiful relationship that we have built with each other.
Completions, if done in a spirit of
love, can create the space for you to move from the past and
begin attracting what you want for your life. If you are willing
to appreciate the past and let it go, wonderful things just
may be in store for you in this present moment.
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Relationship coaches Susie and Otto Collins,
authors of "Should You Stay or
Should You Go?" and "How
to Heal Your Broken Heart" are experts at helping people
get more of the love they really want. Learn the 5 keys to a
closer, more loving relationship, click below for your free
5-part mini-course: http://www.Relationshipgold.com
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For a free mini-course on getting over
a relationship breakup or divorce, click here.
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