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Divorce
"Divorce and Kids: The one question
You need ask yourself about the Children When Considering Divorce"
By Susie and Otto Collins
When one or both people in a marriage
are considering a divorce where there are children involved,
one of the biggest concerns is typically--"What about the children
if there's a divorce? What's best for them?"
These are great questions and ones that
really need serious attention when considering divorce.
Because we're relationship coaches
and authors of the best-selling book "Should You Stay or Should
You Go?" we've gotten to know the stories of hundreds of couples
who were in the middle of trying to make the best decision possible
about whether to divorce or not.
When
a marriage is in trouble, some people try to do whatever they
can to avoid letting the children know just how bad the situation
is between the two parents and it can be quite a shock to the
kids when they realize how bad things are between their parents.
What
we've discovered is that when a marriage is in trouble-- more
often than not-- the kids know. Even if they don't truly know
how bad the situation is, they often suspect that something
isn't quite right.
Some
people try to make the divorce decision largely based on guilt.
Others make the divorce decision based on blind faith. Other
people make the divorce decision based on the question of "how
will it look to others" if we don't stay together.
There
are hundreds of questions that need to be considered when making
the decision about whether to stay in or leave a marriage especially
when there are children involved.
Believe
us when we say that making this decision is never easy and one
of the biggest areas of internal conflict within the people
and couples trying to decide whether to divorce or not is about
the children and what is best for them.
What
we have discovered is that children are more intuitive that
most people think and they are also more resilient than most
people think.
One
of the most important questions that you could ever ask yourself
if you have young children is this--Will they see a better example
of love in action if you stay together or if you divorce?
This is a question that needs the
answer to come from your heart and not your head. The answer
to this question needs to come from you and not from your upbringing
or your programming of the past.
There's
certainly not a guarantee written anywhere that love is always
better the second (or any other) time around.
Your possibilities of being in a happy
harmonious marriage or love relationship for the most part depend
on your ability to choose the right person and your and your
partner's ability to work through any and all challenges and
conflict that comes up.
Raising
kids can be challenging enough by itself. Whatever you decide
about whether to stay in or leave your marriage should be done
with honesty and grace.
We
offer a one-of-a-kind resource for anyone who wants to make
the best decision possible about whether to stay in or leave
a marriage or relationship
Thousands
of couples who were living with the question about whether to
stay or go found the answers about what was best for them as
well as true peace of mind from the information in "Should You
Stay or Should You Go?"
For
more information about "Should You Stay or Should You Go?, go
to http://www.stayorgo.com
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Relationship coaches Susie
and Otto Collins, authors of "Should You Stay or Should You
Go?" and "No More Jealousy" are experts at helping people get
more of the love they really want. Learn the 5 keys to a closer,
more loving relationship, click below for your free 5-part mini-course:
http://www.Relationshipgold.com
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