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Divorce
"Divorce and Kids: The one question You need ask yourself about
the Children When Considering Divorce"
By Susie
and Otto Collins
When one or both people in a marriage are considering a divorce
where there are children involved, one of the biggest concerns is
typically--"What about the children if there's a divorce? What's best for
them?"
These
are great questions and ones that really need serious attention when
considering divorce.
Because we're relationship coaches and authors of the
best-selling book "Should You Stay or Should You Go?" we've gotten to know the
stories of hundreds of couples who were in the middle of trying to make the
best decision possible about whether to divorce or not.
When a marriage is in trouble,
some people try to do whatever they can to avoid letting the children know just
how bad the situation is between the two parents and it can be quite a shock to
the kids when they realize how bad things are between their parents.
What we've
discovered is that when a marriage is in trouble-- more often than not-- the
kids know. Even if they don't truly know how bad the situation is, they often
suspect that something isn't quite right.
Some people try to make the
divorce decision largely based on guilt. Others make the divorce decision based
on blind faith. Other people make the divorce decision based on the question of
"how will it look to others" if we don't stay together.
There are hundreds of questions
that need to be considered when making the decision about whether to stay in or
leave a marriage especially when there are children involved.
Believe us when we say that
making this decision is never easy and one of the biggest areas of internal
conflict within the people and couples trying to decide whether to divorce or
not is about the children and what is best for them.
What we have discovered is that
children are more intuitive that most people think and they are also more
resilient than most people think.
One of the most important
questions that you could ever ask yourself if you have young children is
this--Will they see a better example of love in action if you stay together or
if you divorce?
This is a question that needs the answer to come from your heart
and not your head. The answer to this question needs to come from you and not
from your upbringing or your programming of the past.
There's certainly not a
guarantee written anywhere that love is always better the second (or any other)
time around.
Your possibilities of being in a happy harmonious marriage or
love relationship for the most part depend on your ability to choose the right
person and your and your partner's ability to work through any and all
challenges and conflict that comes up.
Raising kids can be challenging
enough by itself. Whatever you decide about whether to stay in or leave your
marriage should be done with honesty and grace.
We offer a one-of-a-kind
resource for anyone who wants to make the best decision possible about whether
to stay in or leave a marriage or relationship
Thousands of couples who were
living with the question about whether to stay or go found the answers about
what was best for them as well as true peace of mind from the information in
"Should You Stay or Should You Go?"
For more information about
"Should You Stay or Should You Go?, go to http://www.stayorgo.com
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Relationship coaches Susie and Otto Collins, authors
of "Should You Stay or Should You Go?" and "No More Jealousy" are experts at
helping people get more of the love they really want. Learn the 5 keys to a
closer, more loving relationship, click below for your free 5-part mini-course:
http://www.Relationshipgold.com
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