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Divorce
"Turn
from the past and look toward the future ...YOUR future" by
Susie and Otto Collins
Sometimes after a separation or divorce,
we find ourselves dwelling in the past, our thoughts consumed
with that other person.
You
will begin to heal when you start thinking and writing about
what you want for your life.
After Susie's husband of 30 years
left their marriage, she found herself thinking about him, wondering
how he was doing and if he was happy. It wasn't until she decided
to stop focusing on the past and her ex-husband's life and start
focusing on what she wanted, that her life began to move forward
in a powerful way.
It
was almost a physical sensation of turning her body forward
toward her future. She began to create new goals for her life
and pushed past the fear of being alone.
Setting goals is very important in
this process of turning to your new life. The famous motivational
speaker, Zig Ziglar said that he had never met a truly depressed
person who had goals for his/her life and we know that this
is true.
Take
some time right now to create some new goals for your new life.
What have you always wanted to do? What activities have you
always wanted to try but something kept you from trying them?
Are there any groups that you have wanted to join?
We've found the key to moving forward
in your new life is to figure out what you want your new life
to look like and you can start small--but start.
Here
are some things that can help you move forward:
--If you or your
partner left your relationship, remove photos of your past partner
that are prominently positioned in your house (You don't have
to destroy them. Just put them away.)
--If
you're staying in the same house that you and your partner shared,
move the furniture and put some different things on the walls.
Different inexpensive items that are "you" can really help you
to move from your past into your present and future.
--Sign up for a class that will get
you physically active--yoga, Tai Chi, martial arts, aerobics,
swimming, tennis. Get your body moving! When you get your body
moving, endorphins are released into your bloodstream that help
you to feel more positive and uplifted.
--If you are
on your own, find a support group, people who will not support
you in being a victim or rehash why you left, but groups who
will stimulate you into new thought and new ideas. Take at your
local university, church or community center that can help steer
you in new directions together.
--Set and implement new goals for
yourself and watch your life change for the better!
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Relationship coaches Susie
and Otto Collins, authors of "Should You Stay or Should You
Go?" and "No More Jealousy" are experts at helping people get
more of the love they really want. Learn the 5 keys to a closer,
more loving relationship, click below for your free 5-part mini-course:
http://www.Relationshipgold.com
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