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Divorce
"Turn from the past and look
toward the future ...YOUR future" by Susie and Otto Collins
Sometimes after a separation or
divorce, we find ourselves dwelling in the past, our thoughts consumed with
that other person.
You
will begin to heal when you start thinking and writing about what you want for
your life.
After Susie's husband of 30 years left their marriage, she found
herself thinking about him, wondering how he was doing and if he was happy. It
wasn't until she decided to stop focusing on the past and her ex-husband's life
and start focusing on what she wanted, that her life began to move forward in a
powerful way.
It
was almost a physical sensation of turning her body forward toward her future.
She began to create new goals for her life and pushed past the fear of being
alone.
Setting goals is very important in this process of turning to
your new life. The famous motivational speaker, Zig Ziglar said that he had
never met a truly depressed person who had goals for his/her life and we know
that this is true.
Take
some time right now to create some new goals for your new life. What have you
always wanted to do? What activities have you always wanted to try but
something kept you from trying them? Are there any groups that you have wanted
to join?
We've found the key to moving forward in your new life is to
figure out what you want your new life to look like and you can start
small--but start.
Here
are some things that can help you move forward:
--If you or your partner left your
relationship, remove photos of your past partner that are prominently
positioned in your house (You don't have to destroy them. Just put them away.)
--If
you're staying in the same house that you and your partner shared, move the
furniture and put some different things on the walls. Different inexpensive
items that are "you" can really help you to move from your past into your
present and future.
--Sign up for a class that will get you physically active--yoga,
Tai Chi, martial arts, aerobics, swimming, tennis. Get your body moving! When
you get your body moving, endorphins are released into your bloodstream that
help you to feel more positive and uplifted.
--If you are on your own, find a support
group, people who will not support you in being a victim or rehash why you
left, but groups who will stimulate you into new thought and new ideas. Take at
your local university, church or community center that can help steer you in
new directions together.
--Set and implement new goals for yourself and watch your life
change for the better!
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Relationship coaches Susie and Otto Collins, authors
of "Should You Stay or Should You Go?" and "No More Jealousy" are experts at
helping people get more of the love they really want. Learn the 5 keys to a
closer, more loving relationship, click below for your free 5-part mini-course:
http://www.Relationshipgold.com
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