"How to Deal
with Jealousy of Other Women"
by Susie and Otto Collins
When jealousy strikes, no matter what
the cause or the target, it can certainly play havoc in your
life.
Here's "Karen's" question...
"I wanted to contact you
because I'm not jealous or with a jealous partner. My jealousy
problem lies with being jealous of other people especially
women. I HATE it and I pray and pray about it, but I still
deal with it every day. I know that jealousy, resentment and
unforgiveness will rot my soul, and I want to be free of these
horrible, ugly characteristics. Thank you for your help."
Our Answer...
Hi Karen--
first of all we're confused.
At first you say you're not jealous and then you go on to
describe how your jealousy problem lies with other women...
Which
is it?
Do you think you're jealous or not?
Your brief email to us suggests than you really are jealous.
If you're anything like you are saying, we can certainly understand
why you "hate it."
We don't know whether jealousy is going to "rot your
soul" or not (that's pretty extreme don't you think?)
but just you tellling us this gives us a pretty good feeling
about how fed up you are with it.
Like you
said, you hate it--pray about it but it still comes up.
While
we know that prayer can be very powerful and change any aspect
of anyone's life--we also know that you have to put "legs
on your prayers" as Otto's dad always told him to do.
You're
going to need some strategies to overcome jealousy that really
work to help you--and we're going to give you some in a moment
but first...
Please
know that hundreds of people have been helped by our detailed
way to stop jealousy available here... http://www.NoMoreJealousy.com
The number
one thing we'd recommend you do immediately is stop beating
yourself up for your jealous thoughts. Just stop it!
Beating
yourself up will not help because if you are beating yourself
up, you will feel even worse about yourself.
Believe
it or not, beating yourself up is feeding your jealousy and
helping you to feel even more envious of others--especially
other women who don't appear to have this problem--or who
appear more successful, more beautiful or more whatever than
you.
So make
a pact with yourself that you will stop berating yourself.
Got it?
Okay--so
what do you do instead of berating yourself to stop jealousy?
You have
to start finding a way to like something--anything about yourself.
You're
probably saying to right now that you can't find anything
to like about yourself--and how will that help anyway.
If you
can't find anything to like about yourself, start focusing
on something you'd like to learn or accomplish.
When you
take your focus away from how bad you are and how much other
people, especially other women, have over you--and start to
focus on something that you'd like for your future, you'll
find that your jealousy will fade away.
Jealousy
is a habit--a habitual way of thinking and acting--and can
be changed. Take the first step today and make this very important
change in your life!
If you're interested we offer a free
online course about how to overcome jealousy. This FREE online
course about overcoming jealousy is based on our course called
"No More Jealousy." To get this free online course about "No
More Jealousy" visit http://www.NoMoreJealousy.com
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Relationship coaches Susie
and Otto Collins, authors of "Should You Stay or Should You
Go?" and "No More Jealousy" are experts at helping people
get more of the love they really want. Learn the 5 keys to
a closer, more loving relationship, click below for your free
5-part mini-course: http://www.Relationshipgold.com
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