"Turn
Up the Heat in Your Love Relationship"
by Susie and Otto Collins
Like many
people in long-standing committed relationships, you may secretly
wish that your love relationship was as loving and close as
it used to be. Perhaps you don’t look at each other
the same way you used to and there may be separation and between
you. A lot of friendship and cooperation may still be there,
but the passion has dimmed or died over the years.
Take heart,
you can rekindle passion that has died. With some refocusing
and looking at your partner in a new way, this is possible
and it starts outside of the bedroom.
Here are
some suggestions to help you start turning up the heat and
putting more life and love back into your relationship...
1. Never
go to bed angry. This well-known saying is so true. We’ve
interviewed and spoken with many couples who have been married
30, 40, and 50 years and this is the most consistent advice
we hear. Take the time to talk it out when something comes
up between the two of you.
2. Generously
give thanks and sincere compliments. Not only will spoken
and sincere gratitude and appreciation uplift you and your
partner, it can draw you closer as well. Resist any tendencies
to follow up a compliments and thank yous with complaints.
3. Explore
each other. You can always learn something new about the one
you love, no matter how long you’ve been together. Never
assume you know everything there is to know about him or her.
4. Treat
each other with kindness. It is unfortunate that too often
people say they love one another yet they aren’t kind
to each other. Using kind words and consideration for your
partner are two ways to be kind. No matter how long you’ve
been together, act as if your partner is a VIP.
5. Open
your heart to your partner. Despite how busy or tired you
might be, take the time to listen and understand your partner.
Tell your partner what’s important to you and don’t
make assumptions.
These
are just 5 examples of practices that bring us closer and
help us to make each special together. These help keep our
relationship alive, passionate and filled with love.
Remember
that love is a choice we can open up to in every moment. You
can always place your attention on a different, better feeling
place. We hope that you'll join us in choosing love more of
the time.
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Susie and Otto Collins are Relationship Coaches and authors
who are passionate about helping people create lives that
are filled with more passion, love and connection. For more
tips on rekindling passion in your love relationship, visit
http://www.RedHotLoveRelationships.com
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