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Marriage
Help and Advice
"Instant Relationship
Breakthroughs pt.1" by Susie and Otto Collins
Some people believe that change
takes a very long time to happen. These people believe that if you want to
improve something or change something in your life that you peck away at it and
eventually you'll have want you want.
It's been our experience that
change happens in two ways:
1. Yes, it can take a long time to happen or
2. You can do things to create
what we call "Instant Breakthroughs."
You can create these "instant
breakthroughs" in any area of your life if you're open to them and since our
focus in this newsletter is relationships-- the big question is... How do you
create "instant breakthroughs" in your relationships?
Before we give you some ideas on
how to do this, let us first tell you what "instant relationship breakthroughs"
are...
An
instant relationship breakthrough is one moment when one or both of you in the
relationship make a shift to do, say or act differently and there's an opening,
a sense of understanding or feeling of connection and communion in the
relationship that wasn't there previously.
If your intention is to create
these breakthroughs, then you will create the type of relationships that you
want and have more love, passion, intimacy and connection.
To give you an idea of what
we're talking about, here are a few "Instant Relationship Breakthroughs" that
you can begin practicing right now to make your relationships even better...
Instant Relationship Breakthrough Idea #1 --Be proactive and
responsible in creating your life and marriage the way you
want.
If you
don't have the love you want (or anything else), you're the one who is blocking
it.
Think about
your garden hose. What happens when it gets a major kink in it? The water
doesn't flow past the kink. It's shut off until you remove the kink.
That's the way
we believe that it is with us in our lives. When we block our natural radiance,
we block what we want from coming to us. We can choose to allow our life force
to flow or not allow it to flow.
It's our choice.
Some of you at
this point might be arguing with us and saying "I'm not blocking it. It's
because of __________ (you fill in the blank) that I don't have exactly what I
want in my life."
Any time that you don't accept that you are the one blocking the
flow of love, then you are not allowing yourself to be responsible and to begin
creating the life and relationships that you want.
We all have places in our lives
where we can step up to the plate, so to speak, and take responsibility for
turning our lives around--for making small or big changes that will make our
lives and the lives of those we come in contact with better.
Today, ask yourself these
questions-
1.
"How have I put up walls and barriers to having the love and marriage that I
think I want?"
2. "What mental shifts can I make to let go of the walls and
barriers that I've created that prevent me from having what I want?"
Instant Relationship Breakthrough Idea #2 --The power of
making completions that have kept you from moving forward in your life and
relationships.
Most of us have an awareness of things that have been left
unsaid that needed to be said or things that needed to be done that weren't
done. If you need to do a completion about anyone or anything in your life, it
can be a breakthrough moment for you and the other person. Cathy took one of
our courses and told us later that she had made two completions that by doing
them, she was moving forward to having a better marriage.
She returned all of a previous boyfriend's things that were left
at her house, including a computer, several months after she got married. She
also realized that she needed to contact her father who she hadn't seen for
several years. These things from a former lover and her estranged relationship
with her father had been holding her back from opening her heart to loving her
husband and getting the love she wanted.
Completions aren't always as
dramatic as Cathy's but they always free up energy for something more wonderful
and powerful in our lives.
On television the other day, we saw an interview with a couple
who had been married 40 years. When asked how they kept their spark, they said
that they never go to bed mad at each other.
That's a great example of a
completion--of not allowing resentments to build--of saying unsaid words that
may be getting in the way of a great connection with a partner.
We all have
ways we can make completions in our lives that will free up energy so that we
can have what we want.
Anything left unsaid is an incompletion. Challenges or problems
in the bedroom or around sex are almost always about unspoken truths, withheld
emotions and incompletions.
Today, ask yourself these questions... 1. "What is one
completion that I've needed to make with someone or something?" 2. "What's one
small action that I can take to start this completion process?"
If you're interested in finding out more our other "Instant
Relationship Breakthroughs," visit
http://www.InstantRelationshipBreakthroughs.com
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Relationship coaches Susie and Otto Collins, authors of "Should You
Stay or Should You Go?" and "No More Jealousy" are experts at helping people
get more of the love they really want. Learn the 5 keys to a closer, more
loving relationship, click below for your free 5-part mini-course:
http://www.Relationshipgold.com
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