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Attract Your Perfect Partner
"Is a Great Relationship
Really Possible?"
By
Susie and Otto Collins
What is one of the biggest factors that will determine the
quality of relationships that you'll have in your life?
It's your belief about whether
you think that you can have a great relationship or not.
It's just like the author James
Allen wrote in his book "As A Man Thinketh" many years ago. "All that we
achieve and all that we fail to achieve is the direct result of our thoughts."
When it comes
to relationships, what this means is-- whether we have a close, connected and
loving relationship or one that is filled with pain is the direct result of our
thoughts about relationships.
The truth is that many people simply don't believe that they can
have a great relationship and guess what?
If you have beliefs like "I
can't have a great relationship," "All the good ones are gone," "I'm too
young," "I'm too old," or "I'm too anything," then you probably aren't going to
have a very good experience when it comes to relationships.
Along these lines, a very
strange thing happened to us recently... Just the other day, we got a phone
call from a woman who had been in the audience of one of our first talks that
we gave about relationships. She said that she was just calling to find out if
we were still together!
She wasn't calling to ask our advice about anything and she
wasn't calling to see when we were going to be giving another talk in her city
or anything like that. She simply had a burning desire to find out if we were
still together after all this time.
As the two of us were talking
about her call, we realized that what was probably underneath her question
about our relationship was an even greater question about relationships in
general.
That
question is--"Is a close, connected, passionate relationship really possible
over the long haul?"
Anytime that we are asked this question, we respond to it with a
resounding YES and here's why...
Not only have we created a great
relationship that just keeps getting deeper and better as the years go by, but
we know of many other couples, like us, who are doing the same thing.
One couple we
know has been married 34 years and they regularly lead workshops and do
personal coaching about sexuality for couples who want deeper intimacy in their
relationship.
Know that it really is possible, if that is your intention, to
have this type of relationship in your life.
Here are some ideas to help you
create and maintain an outstanding relationship...
1. Know what your values are up
front and be honest about them. If you value your job, your hobbies, your
relationships with your friends more than a close, connection intimate
relationship, then be honest about it. There's nothing wrong with your choices
of where you place your values. Just be conscious about where you are placing
your priorities in your life and live accordingly.
2. If you do want to create a
long-standing close, connected relationship, then make your relationship a
priority in your life. Create your intentions together and follow through with
them. Make time and expend the energy to have what you say you are wanting.
3. The quality
of your relationship and the depth of your connection and intimacy is largely
dependant upon how open your heart is. When there are challenges between the
two of you, practice opening your heart anyway. If you do, you'll find that you
spend less time being disconnected and at odds with one another.
If you want
closer and more connected relationships of any kind, it will require you to
open your heart, be honest and vulnerable while at the same time maintaining
strong boundaries, be courageous and stay open to possibilities. Sound
impossible? It isn't.
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Relationship coaches Susie and Otto Collins, authors of "Should You
Stay or Should You Go?" and "No More Jealousy" are experts at helping people
get more of the love they really want. Learn the 5 keys to a closer, more
loving relationship, click below for your free 5-part mini-course:
http://www.Relationshipgold.com
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