"A Romantic Trip
Down Memory Lane "
by Susie and Otto Collins, Relationship Coaches
Taking
trips down memory lane can do amazing things for your relationship.
Think about how good it makes you feel when you bring out
those old recordings of the music you listened to when you
first fell in love.
What a special way to celebrate your love, reconnect to a
special time and to re- energize your relationship.
Focusing on the nostalgic parts of your relationship that
were about connection-not disconnection-is like engaging in
selective memory which strengthens your current connection.
To take a trip down memory lane, you might go to a restaurant
or park that you used to go to or do some activity together
that used to make your hearts sing. Make it fun and a mini-celebration
of the two of you. If you have kids, find a babysitter and
just play together.
We love to visit the place where we had our first official
"date" and also where we were married. It's a beautiful,
natural setting in Hocking Hills, not too far from our home
in Ohio, called Ash Cave.
In recreating our first date, we sit on the log that we sat
so many years ago and passionately kiss each other as we did
then. We stand where we stood to say our wedding vows and
we repeat our vows.
These trips always bring us closer and help keep the feelings
that we felt for each other so many years ago alive and growing.
You may not have a special place that you once liked to visit
that is readily available to you but there might be other
things that you can surprise your partner with or plan
together that would rekindle your passion.
It doesn't even have to mean "doing" something.
It could mean recapturing a feeling in a moment. Here’s
what one man said about using his trip down memory lane to
keep their love exciting…
“Notice
the small things that attracted the two of you in the first
place. Just the other day, when she smiled at me while looking
out of the corner of her eyes, I felt my heart warm and remembered
the feeling all over again as if it were the first time we
met. It’s something you just know and feel that does
exist but must be protected, respected, and nurtured.”
Sam
We're suggesting that nostalgia might be a way to bring the
two of you closer by reminding you what you once had together
and what is still possible.
Today,
find
something that the two of you enjoyed in the past, that you
have stopped doing and would like to experience again. Plan
when you are going to do this activity again.
(This
article is an excerpt from Susie and Otto's book, "Red
Hot Love Relationships")
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Susie and Otto Collins are Relationship Coaches and
authors who help people create lives that are filled with
more passion, love and connection. For more tips on turning
up the heat in your love relationship, sign up for their free
mini-course at http://www.redhotloverelationships.com
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