"Make
Your Romantic Getaway More Passionate"
By
Susie and Otto Collins
Just ask
any couple. A romantic getaway can be a wonderful renewal
of love, passion and connection. It can also be far less than
what the couple intended.
Almost
everyone has memories of fun, frolic and togetherness from
their favorite trip for two. And almost everyone also has
not so fond memories of getaways with a love that just didn't
turn out as planned.
You can
enhance intimacy, connection and passion as you and your partner
getaway from your normal lives. All it takes is a willingness
to be open, clear and present.
Joanie
thought she had it all figured out. She surprised her husband
Paul with a week-long getaway for two at a scenic mountain
cabin.
In her
planning Joanie included outings for hiking, kayaking, and
plenty of “free” time at the cabin for passion.
Unfortunately, when they arrived at the rustic cabin, Paul
was disappointed to find no television and grumbled that he'd
miss his favorite team in the playoff games that only happen
once a year.
The romantic
getaway continued to go downhill from there as Joanie realized
that Paul just doesn't love spending endless hours in the
great outdoors as she does. Though he thanked her for the
surprise and certainly enjoyed the intimate times they spent
together in the cabin, the countless bug bites, sprained ankle
and sunburn that Paul endured did not make for an overly positive
experience.
Think
through your surprise getaways with care.
As Joanie found out, surprising your mate with a getaway may
not be as perfect for him or her as it is for you. No matter
how well you know your love, it could be that he or she just
isn't in the mood for what you've planned.
And nothing
is worse than spending time and money on a trip meant for
you two to connect when only you are enjoying yourself-- and
even you may not be having fun.
Try to
step back from your first inclination when planning and ask
yourself if your mate would truly like what you have in mind.
Additionally,
some people really don't like surprises. There is a dimension
of decisions being out of your control with a surprise like
a getaway which can feel uncomfortable to some.
For others,
it is a treat to be surprised and to only be required to show
and up and have relax. Be clear about your partner's comfort
level with surprises before proceeding in this way.
Listen
with openness and a sense of adventure.
If Joanie had decided to share with Paul the getaway she had
in mind during the planning phase, he may have said absolutely
not or he may have been open to the rustic mountain cabin
trip-- but perhaps with some alterations.
For example,
they may have scheduled the trip so that the timing would
better suit both of them. Even if there had been a television
in the cabin, Paul wouldn't have wanted to feel torn between
watching the playoff games and spending time with Joanie so
a different week could have made a difference.
They may
also have varied their activities on this getaway to allow
both the chance to do what they thrive doing.
If you
are planning your getaway with your partner, listen with openness
and a sense of adventure to what your love sees as an ideal
and romantic experience.
Be clear
about what you'd like to do too. Now both of you have the
opportunity to expand and perhaps be adventurous arranging
for activities that you wouldn't necessarily have chosen but
are nonetheless willing to try out.
There
may also be more overlap in what you both want than you expected.
Believe
it or not, this openness and sense of adventure are key ingredients
to your getaway being a more passionate experience.
Be true to yourself and what you want, but stay open and you
may find a deeper connection with your love.
Let
go of expectations and enjoy the moment.
You've made reservations, set up transportation, perhaps you've
even packed and are ready to go. Now is definitely the time
to let go of your expectations for this getaway and just settle
in and enjoy each moment that comes.
Even if
Joanie and Paul had planned their rustic mountain cabin trip
together and found ways to include a balance of activities
they both like to do, the sprained ankle, bug bites and sunburn
might still have occurred. Stuff happens.
When you
can loosen up about what you planned and allow for the unexpected,
you may find that you and your love can still connect and
share passion-- even amid the surprises and unpleasantries.
It's all
about staying open and keeping your focus on what this trip
was all about in the first place: to connect and celebrate
the love you two share. Have fun and don't forget to laugh
as intimacy between you two grows!
For more
tips and ideas on how to create a red hot love relationship
in and out of the bedroom—and keep it that way—visit
http://www.RedHotLoveRelationships.com
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