Dr. Frank Gunzburg Baltimore Maryland Unfortunately, there is not one simple answer that addresses why all people who get involved in affairs do so. People are complex and engage in infidelity for different reasons. When we talk about the “reasons” the affair happened, it might seem as though the affair were inevitable or somehow a [...]

When we first started offering our program for stopping jealousy called “No More Jealousy,” we didn’t realize that cheating in our culture was as big of an issue and problem as it is. Now of course, we know that many men and women in committed relationships don’t cheat. But many ARE cheating and have cheated [...]

What do you do if your partner is involved with someone else–either physically or emotionally (or both)–and he or she won’t stop Do you hang on and hope that your partner will some day wake up and completely come back to you and let the other person go–or do you leave? If you’d like some [...]

Once both of you have started coming to terms with the emotions that have come up because of the cheating and extramarital affair, you will need to begin communicating about and exploring rebuilding your relationship. This is often difficult and the truth is that it isn’t always easy. But there is a way you can [...]

One of Jamey’s worst nightmares just came true. This morning, after another of her husband’s all-night “emergency” work sessions at the office, Jamey received a phone call from a trusted friend who saw Jamey’s husband, Tom, and a young woman kissing and holding hands at a diner eating breakfast. This information literally took Jamey’s breath [...]

Dr. Frank Gunzburg Baltimore MarylandIn a way, you have been behaving like a person addicted to a drug. When a person is addicted to drugs, the drug gives, or gave, the person wonderful feelings. (That’s why someone gets addicted in the first place.) Similarly, the affair gave you wonderful feelings at some point; that’s why [...]

Have you ever wanted to change or improve your love relationship in some way but your partner seems to drag his or her feet about making any changes or even acknowledging that there is a problem to begin with? This can be quite frustrating. After all, the proverbial “two-way street” is what being in a [...]

by Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach Recent statistics suggest that 40% of women (and that number is increasing) and 60% of men at one point indulge in extramarital affairs. Put those numbers together and it is estimated that 80% of the marriages will have one spouse at one point or another involved in marital [...]

Movie spies like James Bond or Agent 99 from the “Get Smart” film make finding out the truth behind a mystery seem intriguingThey creep around corners listening in on conversations, hack computers for the names of crime kingpins and do it all looking suave and sleek.In your real life love relationship, there is nothing suave, [...]

What if you’re in a committed relationship or marriage and your “soul mate” shows up? Talk about an uncomfortable and potentially dangerous situation! You either go crazy trying to deny to everyone that the attraction is happening or you dip your toe (or whole body) into cheating and infidelity. Here’s what one person asked and [...]

by Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach One kind of extramarital affair revolves around sexual addiction. The partner involved in the affair, plain and simple, has a difficult time saying “NO.” He/she may want to, but feels compelled to say “yes.” People can’t say no? Well, I believe we all have the capacity, at some [...]

Dealing with your emotions shortly after you have discovered your spouse’s affair can and does usually overshadow everything else in your life. According to marriage and family counsellor Dr. Frank Ginzberg, rather than focusing your energy outward in the early stages of healing from an affair, the best thing you can do is turn inward. [...]

If you’ve ever discovered that someone is flirting with YOUR partner, we probably don’t have to tell you that things can get UGLY pretty quickly… In fact, it can be a real problem when someone is flirting with your partner even if your partner doesn’t flirt back. In situations like these, all kinds of fears [...]

by Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach Hi Dr. Bob, I’m writing to you in regards to being involved with a married man. Our relationship is more than meant to be and we are aware of this, the only thing that is stopping his divorce is the money. Apparently it will cost alot to get [...]

 If it’s only an “emotional affair,” is it really an affair?This is such a great question–and one we hear from a lot of people. Emotional affairs can happen in any number of ways especially with cell phones, the internet, Facebook, Twitter and all the new ways of connecting with someone that didn’t used to exist. [...]