One of the biggest relationship questions is how to feel and express yourself when you get triggered–so that a partner can hear and not shut down to you or get into a big fight. When you and your partner are feeling resistant and “hard” toward each other, it doesn’t lead to more intimacy and the [...]

A common relationship trap that you may have fallen into (along with everyone else who’s ever been in a relationship) is “I’m RIGHT–You’re WRONG.” We are amazed at how easy it is to fall into the “I’m Right–You’re Wrong” trap–and how destructive it is to your relationship when you do! Recently, one of our coaching [...]

Have you ever caught yourself saying one thing but feeling something entirely different–and it ends up damaging your relationship or at the least, you feeling angry with yourself later? Well join the club… Talk about a barrier to intimacy–this is a really good one! It also gets in the way of heart-felt and honest communication. [...]

One of the biggest challenges and one of the biggest reasons that the life, love and the spark fades in a relationship is that you start communicating in ways that don’t keep you close and connected–and these are what we’re calling the “old fashioned” way. We’ll tell you about these “old fashioned” ways and how [...]

Have you ever found yourself talking with someone but you aren’t listening because you are thinking about what you want to say? Or you might find yourself being triggered by what the other person is saying. These are things that most of us do from time to time—and they are deadly to our relationships and [...]

Because so many people want to know how to stay open in love when they don’t feel very loving in the moment, we wanted to give you some tips and ideas on opening your heart in difficult circumstances.Here’s an example of what we mean…Every once in awhile, John gets really angry– so angry that Marsha [...]

If you’ve been getting this newsletter for any length of time, bought one of our courses or worked with us through coaching, you know that we talk a lot about creating conscious agreements and their importance in creating a relationship that’s as close and connected as possible.Recently, one of our readers wrote to us and [...]

Here are a couple of relationship questions that are worth thinking about… How good are you at following through with what you say you’ll do, especially with your loved ones?What do you value and what are your true commitments in your life? Because our lives can “get away from us” for any number of reasons [...]

Just about any and all love relationships have their ups and downs. It’s sometimes difficult to tell the difference between a relationship “slump” and a warning sign that you need to take a close look at what’s going on and consider some changes. When you feel like your partner is giving you the cold shoulder [...]

If you’re like us, no matter how good (or bad) your relationship or marriage is… You probably have situations in your relationships, especially your intimate ones, that you’d like to improve or change.The problem for most of us is that when we start to look at making these changes, it can look and feel pretty [...]

Every single second of every single day is filled with choices, millions of choices perhaps. So why does it sometimes feel we have no choice? We’ve all felt stuck in the midst of a tricky relationship moment where there just seems to be no other way than… (fill in the blank). Even if it’s an [...]

Most of us have had this pretty common relationship challenge at one time or another (especially with the people closest to us)… You just can’t seem to talk to each other without one or both of you getting upset. And this “upset” shows up in all kinds of different ways with you and your partner. [...]

Have you ever been with someone you love and you felt alone because he or she seemed a million miles away?Have you ever asked your partner to do something, got a mumbled reply (or no reply)–you thought there was agreement but nothing happened? Your partner told you he or she didn’t remember the conversation, didn’t [...]