"Relationship
Advice for Getting Ready for Change"
by Susie and Otto Collins
The first
day of spring is just around the corner and not coming a moment
too soon.
Because
of the blizzard that dumped up to 20
inches of snow on us in central Ohio a couple of weeks ago,
we've been up to our ears in snow and now the rains are here.
Probably like a lot of you, we're ready for a change.
Maybe
it's time for a little change in your relationships too!
Sometimes
all it takes to create the life or relationships that you
really want is to make one simple change.
Sometimes the changes that are required are small and subtle
and some times much bigger.
What we've discovered is that you are always changing and
the issue becomes whether you are changing to what you want
more of or less of.
Don't
look outside of yourself for other things and other people
to change. Conscious change starts with you and your thoughts.
We've
found that our thinking (and the kinds of things we think
about and focus on) are habits--and if you are in the habit
of thinking about what you don't want, it will keep you stuck.
Believe
it or not, it's just as easy to think about what you do want
in your life and your relationships as it is to think about
what you don't want.
Here's what we mean...
If you've read our articles for any length of time, you know
that Otto isn't a "Mr. Fix-it" and neither is Susie.
He doesn't have the interest in learning how to fix things
around the house and he's never learned the skills to do them.
Since getting our previous home ready to sell
and moving into our new home, he's had
several opportunities to make some changes
in himself so that these jobs get done.
Just like anything that we want to change or
improve in our relationships-- before any of these odd jobs
around the house could be done by Otto, he has had to change.
What he
changed were his thoughts, attitudes and beliefs about his
abilities and he also asked for the help and support he needed
to complete these small jobs--or figure out who to hire.
Remember that things do not change. We change.
If you
are wanting to make some changes for the better in your relationship
or life, here are some simple tips for making changes:
1. You have to have the motivation to change and you have
to believe you can do it . You also have to believe that you
deserve what the change could bring you.
2. You
have to watch the stories you tell yourself about the change
you want to make and not allow them to sabotage your efforts.
3. Figure
out whether the voice in your mind is from your fears or for
your higher good. Bring yourself into the present moment when
a fear or limitation comes up and discover whether this fear
is actually true or not--right here, right now.
4. Take a small step toward what you want if the big step
is too big.
5. Find
your reason(s) that you want to change. Sometimes your reason
why may be something as simple as making the decision to say
yes to you.
6. Be willing to change and to allow something new in your
life. We often get comfortable and fear change, although there
may be a feeling inside that is telling us that we want something
better.
What do you want to change in your life and relationships?
What we're
really suggesting is that given the right motivation or given
the freedom to relax and know that you are always OK no matter
what is going on in your life, can you, could you or will
you change the small (or not so small) things that keep you
from the life and relationships you really want.
We're
guessing that you could.
We all
can.
What we've
found is that in almost every situation...
... Creating what we want is doable with the right thoughts,
attitudes, beliefs and actions.
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Relationship coaches Susie
and Otto Collins, authors of "Should You Stay or Should You
Go?" and "No More Jealousy" are experts at helping people
get more of the love they really want. Learn the 5 keys to
a closer, more loving relationship, click below for your free
5-part mini-course: http://www.Relationshipgold.com
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