"Find
Love and Create the Relationship of Your Dreams"
Susie and Otto Collins
Have you
had it with being single and alone? Are you tired of romantic
encounters that either lead nowhere or lead you places you
don't want to go? Are you ready to share your life and love
with the mate of your dreams?
If you
answered “yes,” to any of these questions then
you are definitely ready for love and a committed relationship.
Your readiness may not be the issue though. Attracting that
perfect someone may be the challenge for you. Perhaps it seems
that everywhere you look there are either no available potential
partners or the available ones are undesirable to you.
This can
be frustrating and disheartening. If you seriously want to
find love and create the relationship of your dreams, we have
two words of advice for you...
STOP
LOOKING!
This might
be difficult to hear-- and maybe you've been told this before--
but often the most enduring, passionate relationships develop
when the two people involved are not trying so hard to make
something happen.
Have you
ever lost your car keys and you desperately need to find them?
You've looked everywhere-- under, behind and on top of literally
everything you can think of. At a certain point you throw
up your hands and give up. Maybe you scrounge up a spare key
so that you can get where you're going. Then, days later when
you've just about forgotten the lost keys, they miraculously
show up right where you swore you looked three times!
Finding
love can be like those lost car keys. When you're working
very hard to attract a mate, he or she just doesn't seem to
come. But when you let go and focus in on living your life,
that love and relationship is allowed to develop on its own.
Be
clear about what you want.
Does this mean that you shouldn't even think about love, relationships
or potential partners? Of course not. In fact, we encourage
you to think and dream about what kind of relationship you
want. Create in your mind an image of yourself happy and in
love with a partner who is a fabulous fit for you. Revel in
that image and don't be afraid to add details to it-- particularly
details about how you feel when with this person. We want
you to dream about this relationship and see yourself actually
having it.
Stay
open.
While you enjoy this dream relationship you are imagining
for yourself, keep an attitude of openness. Perhaps you find
yourself attracted to someone but he or she doesn't exactly
fit what you've pictured in your mind. Follow your feelings.
Are your emotions pointing in the direction of how you feel
in your dream relationship? If so, that's an encouraging sign!
Be patient
too. If you are aren't necessarily knocked off your feet by
this new person in your life, then perhaps you'll choose to
move on. On the other hand, if you are enjoying yourself with
the person, you might decide to keep having fun and not worry
about the long term. You never know when you'll be surprised
by the shifts and changes in how you feel or how a friendship
might transform. Worst case scenario may be that you'll end
up with a friend who is fun to spend time with.
Stay
present.
When you can stay present in this moment you are living, you
can fully appreciate the gems around you right here, right
now. You may not be in love at the moment and you may not
be in any romantic relationship at all. But you can still
find things to enjoy and feel happy about.
As you
are present, you can also tune in to the people who are already
in your life. Perhaps there is unacknowledged chemistry between
you and someone you've known for many years and you've just
never noticed it because you've always looked for love elsewhere.
You can
maintain that dream image of what you want and still stay
awake and aware of this very moment which is filled with precious
gifts. Have fun and allow love to come to you!
For more
information about finding the love of your life, visit http://www.RelationshipAttractorFactor.com
***************************** Relationship coaches Susie and Otto Collins, authors of "Should You
Stay or Should You Go?" and "No More Jealousy" are experts at helping people
get more of the love they really want. Learn the 5 keys to a closer, more
loving relationship, click below for your free 5-part mini-course:
http://www.Relationshipgold.com *********************************
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