"Relationship
Advice for Living and Loving"
by Susie and Otto
Collins
You may remember as a child singing the words
"This little light of mine, I'm going to let it shine."
Recently, we bought Bruce Springsteen's wonderful album and
dvd "Live in Dublin" and one of the selections in
this unique and compelling collection of folk songs is his
version of "This Little Light of Mine."
Bruce and the Sessions Band sing it this way...
"This little light of mine, I'm going to let it shine...everyday,
everyday, everyday."
What a simple yet powerful lesson for all of us to remember
to help us create the life and relationships that we want.
So what does it mean to let your light shine? And what does
it mean to let our light shine in our relationships?
Does it mean that you have to constantly have a smile on your
face, no matter what's happening in your life and no matter
what's being done to you or those you love?
We think the idea of letting your life shine is very personal
and unique to each person. It means that we live our lives
from inspiration without hiding behind fear, mistrust, limitation
and our old negative stories about ourselves and others.
Dr. Joe Vitale and Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len have written a wonderful
book called "Zero Limits" and in it, Dr. Len says
that in every single moment, you are living your life from
either memory or inspiration.
In other words, your thoughts and actions originate either
from experiences and fears from the past or from a place of
possibility, openness, and a knowing that wells up
inside you.
The "light" is this inspiration, the place from
which you act from or "shine" as much of the time
as possible.
We'll give you a practical example...
As you may know, we've been in the process of selling our
house and buying another one in a larger city about an hour
from where we live now.
During this process, we've had plenty of opportunities to
notice whether we were acting from a place of memory or from
inspiration and shining our light to each other, as well as
the rest of the world.
When we've thought or acted from memory--events from the past
that need to be healed, we haven't been open to each other
and there's been a feeling of disconnection.
When we've acted from pure inspiration and love, our connection
has felt strong--and we've felt sure of the steps that we
are taking are the right ones for us at this time.
So how do you live from inspiration and let your light shine
more of the time?
That's certainly a big question. It's one that we live with
every day and here are some ideas we'll share with you that
have helped us to live from inspiration more of the time.
We think they could help you as well...
1. If you feel an uneasiness come up inside you or you are
triggered by what someone else is doing or saying, stop yourself
before you react from "memory" or the way you've
always reacted before.
Feel what's coming up inside you. You might know where these
feelings are coming from and you might not be able to identify
a memory or reason for your feeling or reaction.
Does this mean that the other person is "blameless"?
Of course not. But if you want to live your life with more
ease and have more love, you have to start with you and what's
going on inside you.
2. Find a way to love yourself and that memory. If you have
no clue about what memory is coming up, just keep loving yourself
with your thoughts and even your words. We've discovered that
when we do, the situation becomes easier and there's a feeling
of letting go and relaxation.
3. Allow room for inspired action. Open to listening to the
other person and say what's true for you so the other can
hear. True inspired action can come from this type of honest
dialog. We know because this is what we try to practice in
every moment.
This week, allow your light to shine as you live your life
more from inspiration than memory.
If you do, you'll discover how much joy and love can come
to you.
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Relationship coaches Susie
and Otto Collins, authors of "Should You Stay or Should You
Go?" and "No More Jealousy" are experts at helping people
get more of the love they really want. Learn the 5 keys to
a closer, more loving relationship, click below for your free
5-part mini-course: http://www.Relationshipgold.com
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