"17
Ways to Make Your Relationships Great in the New Year" pt.
1
by Susie and Otto Collins
We recently saw a list of the 5 top topics that
people create goals around for the new year,
with weight loss leading the list.
What struck us as odd was that creating better relationships
wasn't on that list!
In our opinion, there is NOTHING more important than your
relationships AND...
The reason we hold this opinion isn't because
we're relationship coaches who write about, speak about, coach
and teach people like you about creating closer and more connected
relationships.
You see, everything we do or try to do in life
is either about, includes or requires the help of a relationship
of some kind.
If you are a parent (or have parents) that's a
relationship.
If you work anywhere, you must develop
relationships to be successful in your job.
Governments must form relationships with
other government organizations in order to be effective and
even to be in harmony with one another.
Even something like an engine in a car must
have a "relationship" with the other parts of
the car in order to work effectively and efficiently to provide
transportation for the owner and passengers of the car.
In our way of looking at things, if you're going to have something,
why not go for the best?
When it comes to your relationships, if you
want them to be better than what you have
right now, one of the best ways is to
continually find some ways of improving
them--and that starts with intentions and
then setting and achieving some goals.
In case you're like us and haven't written
your goals or resolutions for the new year (or even if you
never do it), we want to offer you a few ideas about how you
can create growing, more loving, more deeply connected
relationships in the new year.
Here are a few ways that have worked for
us to keep our relationship close, connected
and growing--and we offer them to you...
1. Forget about it.
Forget about what happened last year. It's
done. It's over. If you feel like you need
resolution about something that was said
or that happened, talk to the other person.
If you don't get the resolution that you want,
don't carry it into the new year. Forgive
yourself or the other person.
Does that mean you allow yourself to be
used or abused in any way. Of course not!
All we are saying is that unresolved
grievances may hurt you more than the
other person--or more than you realize.
2. Set some relationship goals.
Think about what you'd like more of in 2008
in your relationship. We suggest that you
take some time together and talk about
what you want and some ways that you
could practice that would bring you closer
to having it--if the relationship is important
to you.
For instance, one of our relationship goals
for 2008 might be "having more fun together."
One of the ways we could "practice" is to
keep a list of what "having fun" means to
each of us and then doing one or more of
those things every week.
3. Increase the amount of time you spend
in bed--both sleeping and making love.
Statistics show that most of us don't get
enough sleep--and relationships can
certainly suffer if you don't. If you aren't
sleeping, begin some type of meditation
or relaxation program. There are plenty
of resources out there that can help.
If you are with an intimate partner, we
suggest that you spend more time making
love--from a connected space. If you don't
feel connected, make it a practice to feel
close and connected before love making.
Talk about how the two of you can increase
intimate feelings in your relationship.
4. Make your relationships a bigger priority.
Most of us lead very busy lives and we tend
to put most everything ahead of maintaining
and growing our relationships, especially
the intimate one.
We've said this many, many times but the
idea bears repeating. People can very
easily get "lost" from one another if they
don't keep coming back to revitalizing their
relationship.
Committing to doing one simple thing like
having a meal together once a day--or even
one day a week--and talking together can
make a big difference in a relationship.
5. Do something different.
Doing something different and varying from
your routine helps you to expand and grow.
Doing something different--something that
excites both of you-can help your
relationship to come alive.
Some friends of ours went salsa dancing
on New Year's Eve. This is the first time
in a long while that they had celebrated
this holiday away from home--so it was
very different for them. They told us
that although they were terrible at salsa
dancing, they laughed and had a lot of
fun.
We suggest that you try something
different that would be nourishing for
your relationship.
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Relationship coaches Susie
and Otto Collins, authors of "Should You Stay or Should You
Go?" and "No More Jealousy" are experts at helping people
get more of the love they really want. Learn the 5 keys to
a closer, more loving relationship, click below for your free
5-part mini-course: http://www.Relationshipgold.com
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