"17
Ways to Make Your Relationships Great in the New Year" pt.
2
by Susie and Otto Collins
In our most recent survey about relationships, someone asked
us the question (and we thought it was a good one)--
"How do you create a great relationship that
really lasts in today's world of throwaway'
relationships and $99 divorces?"
Whew!
We wanted to say to this person...
Hold on a minute. Yes there are many more
break ups than there used to be many years
ago but in our opinion, there's also more joy,
possibilities and connection.
As always, we want to do our part in giving you the relationship
help and ideas you need to create a great relationship filled
with lots of love, passion and connection.
In this series of articles, we're giving you some ideas and
an invitation to create some relationship goals for the coming
year that will bring you closer to what you want for your
life.
We know that writing relationship goals may not be at the
top of your list of things to do right now, but whether you're
single or with a partner, we urge you to spend just a few
minutes thinking about what you would like more of in your
relationships.
Then consider our "17 ways" that you could put into
action in your life.
This can be your best year yet and we're
offering some ways to help you manifest that
for yourself.
Here are a few more ways that have worked
for us to keep our relationship close, connected and growing--and
we offer them to you...
1. Decide to heal your past--or the parts that are constantly
in your face.
If you're like most people, you carry your past around with
you everywhere. Now the past doesn't always get in the way
of what we
want but sometimes it does.
Take Sam...He just couldn't let go of his first marriage and
first wife. He wanted her understanding and forgiveness because
he left their marriage. He wanted her to tell him that she
knew why he left and that she played a part in his leaving.
But she never did...And he could never let go so every new
relationship he tried failed.
Healing for Sam would be to begin to let go of his desire
that his ex act in a certain way and his need to keep living
in the past.
He needs to quit judging her as he perceives she's judging
him. He can begin by staying in his present and looking toward
his future.
What is it in your past that you could begin to look at and
heal that you've been carrying around with you that no longer
serves you?
2. Recommit to your relationship.
Recommiting to a relationship--whether it's a relationship
with your significant other, your child, or yourself--means
looking at that
relationship with fresh eyes and making the decision that
this relationship is important to you.
It might mean spending more time
together. It might mean focusing more attention on that relationship,
making it a higher priority in your life.
If you are recommiting to yourself, you can spend more time
pampering yourself in whatever way that feels good to you.
If you are recommiting to a partner, you can find time each
day to focus on and love each other.
How can you either recommit to yourself or to your partner
and what might that look like?
3. Learn some new relationship skills.
The two of us are constantly learning about how to have great
relationships and if you're reading this right now, you know
that we share these ideas with you in this newsletter. Many
people tell us that they use our newsletters as a jumping
off point for discussions with their partners or friends.
We invite you to do the same.
In whatever area that you would like to
improve--whether it's to put more spark back in your relationship,
communicate better, or find a partner who you truly want to
be with--choose to learn some new things that will help move
you closer to what you want.
What new relationship skills will help bring you closer to
having what you want?
4. Meditate, pray, connect deeper to
your spiritual center and Source, God,
Creator--whatever name feels right to you. Why would connecting
deeper to your
spiritual center and with God help you create great relationships?
We can speak from our experience. When we take time each day
to pray and meditate, that is a time of relaxation and self-reflection.
We can just feel what we've been holding on to all day just
melt away. Sometimes we even get a big "ah ha" about
how an interaction could have gone better
or how our reaction could have closed the other person to
us--how we could have loved more.
Now this meditation or pray time doesn't
mean you have to sit still for a certain
amount of time. Susie "sits" for meditation
every day but Otto chooses to meditate
during what he calls his "quiet, alone time" and
that usually involves taking a walk by himself.
Whatever way fits you, we invite you to begin a meditation/pray/quiet
time practice every day. Start with 10 minutes and you'll
see the big changes that are in store for you and your relationships.
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Relationship coaches Susie
and Otto Collins, authors of "Should You Stay or Should You
Go?" and "No More Jealousy" are experts at helping people
get more of the love they really want. Learn the 5 keys to
a closer, more loving relationship, click below for your free
5-part mini-course: http://www.Relationshipgold.com
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