"17
Ways to Make Your Relationships Great in 2008" pt. 3
by Susie and Otto Collins
How do
you make your relationships great (or better) in 2008?
This is a good question and based on the responses we got
from a recent survey we conducted, there certainly are some
interesting questions about how to create more love and connection
in their lives.
What we've discovered about creating a great relationship
is this...
EVERYTHING you do, say or believe is either moving you closer
to or further from the love and connection you really want.
It's really that simple.
Just decide what you want and then use your emotions and your
happiness as your guides for how you're doing. Then constantly
"course correct" much like a pilot of an airplane
would do when flying from one place to another until you create
what you want.
Here are some additional specific tangible tips and ideas
you can use for making your relationships great in 2008...
See how each of these ideas might work in your life to help
you create more of what you want.
1. Be more open.
Although "being more open" means something completely
different to every one, a simple way to put it is to do and
say things that allow another person to more deeply understand
who you are. It also means understanding more deeply who someone
else is.
Recently we watched an episode of the television show "Ugly
Betty" and in this show was a terrific example of what
we mean by "being open"...
Quite by accident, Betty and another character in the show
who don't usually like one another had a short, meaningful
conversation. They shared something truthful about themselves
to each other and it was something they ordinarily didn't
do. They were briefly open to each other--more open than they
had been.
Does this mean that you share your intimate
secrets with your co-workers?
Not really--but it does mean to look for
opportunities in all parts of your life to open in new ways
to others to allow you to know someone and then to know you
at a deeper level.
2. Take a vacation
It's cold and snowy right now where we live
and a good time to plan a vacation. Whether
you spend a lot of money or not on your
get-away, begin planning to take some
"down" time with someone you care about,
or go by yourself, doing something fun,
exciting or relaxing.
We're
planning to spend a few days in March with our friends at
Folly Beach near Charleston, South Carolina. We'll have some
time alone and also time socializing with our friends. We'll
be doing some things that we don't normally do--and having
fun in a
different place.
Your
get-away might even be something
you've wanted to do but haven't gotten
around to doing yet.
Where
have you always wanted to go and
what have you wanted to do that you
haven't yet done?
Take this opportunity to make some plans
to relax and do something a little out of
the ordinary. Everybody needs a little
R & R to rejuvenate so be sure to plan
to take yours.
3. Spend
More Time Alone.
It may seem contradictory to suggest that
spending time alone can help create great
relationships but it can and does.
When
we are so tightly scheduled that we
with activities and people, many of us tend
to lose connection with ourselves and with
others. We find that we are just going through the motions
of whatever else is on our list of things to do.
That "alone
time" can be in the form of
meditation, a walk, or simply sitting and
breathing.
If
you have no alone time, schedule in at
least 15 or 30 minutes so you can quiet
yourself and stop "doing."
Here's
a suggestion...
Don't
spend your alone time hashing over
what you should have done or wish you
had done in a situation. Regret, guilt,
resentment, and worry is a waste of your
"alone time." We suggest you spend your
time in the present moment and in
appreciation for yourself and those in
your life.
There's
always a way to get a little time
by yourself. We invite you to take yours
on a regular basis.
4. Spend
More Time Together.
Who do you want to spend more time with?
Take this opportunity to call that person
for a "date" and then go and enjoy yourself.
Is there
a friend you haven't seen in awhile
and you just don't seem to get around to
calling and setting up a time to get together?
Are you
and your partner constantly moving
in different directions and you never seem to
be able to find time to even sit down and talk?
We never
know how long we have on this
earth and we only really have today so make
a connection with someone who you care
about or even someone you'd like to get to
know.
The two
of us learned a long time ago that
you have to "feed" the relationships that you
want to grow. Do something today to grow
yours and you'll find more love and fullness
in your life than you ever thought possible.
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Relationship coaches Susie
and Otto Collins, authors of "Should You Stay or Should You
Go?" and "No More Jealousy" are experts at helping people
get more of the love they really want. Learn the 5 keys to
a closer, more loving relationship, click below for your free
5-part mini-course: http://www.Relationshipgold.com
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