"Relationship
Advice for Reversing Directions"
by Susie and Otto Collins
Have you
ever been talking to someone you love and your mind wanders
and you're not really present?
Have you
ever mumbled "uh um" while a love one was talking
to you but you weren't paying attention because you were on
the computer, watching television or doing something else?
Or has
a loved one mumbled a reply to you and you just knew that
he or she wasn't listening?
Whether
it’s your partner, your children, a co-worker, or a
friend—from time to time many of us allow our attention
to wander onto other things and we don’t really listen
to them. It's also something that we can experience from other
people.
Whether
it's you or someone else, this lack of attention can translate
to “you don’t really care” and “I’m
not important to you” regardless of whether this is
the message we intend or want to give.
Our lack
of presence can inadvertently create distance, separation
and misunderstanding and we don’t even realize that
it’s happening.
The
Relationship Reverse
Sometimes,
we have to reverse direction and make some shifts in what
we're thinking and doing in order to create the love and relationships
that we want.
When you make a relationship reverse, you first have to reverse
your thinking and then reverse, shift or change your actions
that are taking you away from what you really want.
When you
make these shifts, suddenly your relationship starts working
better, your communication is better and you're feeling closer
and more connected to your partner. You might even wonder
"why didn't we do this before?"
How
do you reverse not being present?
Staying
in the present moment is possibly one of the hardest skills
to learn but it's also one of the most important.
What’s
been helpful for us has been to remind ourselves that the
other person is important and what he or she is sharing is
important—and to be honest if we don’t have the
time to talk at that moment.
Stop multi-tasking,
whether it’s in your mind or actually doing something
else, and simply “be” with the other person. If
you do, you’ll feel calmer, more centered and more open
to what the other person is saying.
If someone
is not being present when you are talking, don't be afraid
to ask for his or her attention in a loving way.
No matter
how close and connected you are with your partner, we're willing
to bet there are some things you can reverse quickly and easily
to make your life much better, starting today.
For more
information and a Free Report about relationship reverses
and how they can help you create the relationships that you
want, visit http://www.RelationshipReverse.com
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