"You
Can Enjoy Passion and Friendship in the Same Long-Term Relationship"
By Susie and Otto Collins, Relationship Coaches
If you are in a long-term love relationship or marriage, you
might wonder if you can truly “have it all?”
In our work we often find the following situations which spark
this question…
--A relationship may be strong in compatibility or friendship
but, over the long haul passionate moments may be few and
far between.
--The connection may be limited to a sense of taking care
of or being taken care of by one’s partner on a physical,
emotional, or financial level.
--Passion is sporadic and not rooted in connection.
--While there may be deep love, the individuals are going
in different directions with little or no passion or connection.
We’ll consider again the question, “Can you have
it all”? Can love, passion, friendship, and connection
all exist in the same long-term relationship?
We affirm that YOU CAN have it all in one relationship. Here’s
why…
We enjoy love, passion, friendship and connection in our relationship
and others do too.
So, if it’s possible, how can it happen for you?
In the early stages of our relationship, we decided that we
wanted to enjoy together all of these elements--love, passion
and connection, as well as deep friendship.
Neither of us experienced this in past relationships and we
committed to this decision. The pain of not having all of
these elements was greater than the challenges of “having
it all.”
This strong commitment, for us, means that we do whatever
is necessary to move out of disconnection to connection as
quickly as possible. This action by itself keeps our passion
lit and our friendship and love thriving.
Whether or not you are in a long-term relationship, we suggest
that you examine your beliefs about what is possible in an
intimate committed relationship.
Consider whether your beliefs about the possibility of having
love, passion, connection and friendship serve you or not.
If your beliefs don’t serve you, perhaps past experiences
are preventing you from something better. Maybe you have moved
from one relationship to another not feeling successful in
any of them. Regardless of what you discover about your beliefs,
we encourage you to open up to the possibility that it is
possible for you to have what you want.
We invite you to live your life to its fullest and most positive
potential.
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Susie and Otto Collins are Relationship Coaches and authors
who are passionate about helping people create lives that
are filled with more passion, love and connection. For more
tips on rekindling passion in your love relationship, visit
http://www.RedHotLoveRelationships.com
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