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Romance Tips and
Romantic Ideas
"Romantic Things
to Do to Keep Your Relationship Vibrant, Alive and Exciting"
by Susie and Otto
Collins
It's often been said that it's the little things in life that
make all the difference. No where is this truer than when it comes to keeping
your relationship alive, growing and vibrant.
Romance can be one of those
things that keeps a relationship fresh and exciting. We all have different
ideas of what "romance" and "being romantic" means.
There can be a lot of unmet
expectations, frustrations and feelings of failure around this idea.
We don't think
it has to be this way.
What being romantic means to us is that we are continuously
discovering ways to laugh, love and connect with each other and deepen our
intimacy all the time.
To us, romance is what we do on a moment-by-moment and
day-by-day basis to make our relationship stronger and more passionate. Being
romantic is a way of showing our deep love for each other.
Of all the romantic things to
do, we've found that the small things make the biggest difference.
Here's an
example of what happened the other night...
Susie went camping for one night
with her extended family and since Otto doesn't like "roughing" it, he stayed
home. As she snuggled down in her tent with her sister, Susie called Otto on
her cell phone to say goodnight. She told him that she loved him and missed
him.
Although a
phone call is a pretty normal thing to do between people who truly care about
one another when they are apart, it can be a way to connect and rekindle love
in a romantic way like we did.
Romantic things to do for each other are romantic only when they
create the desired effect within the other person and within the relationship.
Romance will
only create the desired effect when it is not done out of obligation or because
it is expected.
So what are the best romantic things to do to make your
relationship more alive?
That depends on you and your partner because everyone is
different. Romance is certainly in the eye of the beholder!
To some people, a "no-brainer"
romantic thing to do is to send flowers. You can't go wrong with flowers,
right?
Wrong.
You can go
wrong with flowers if there is little or no "heart" in the gesture and if
there's something else that the other person is wanting.
Susie's ex-husband often brought
her flowers during their 30-year marriage. Although it truly was a wonderful
gesture, what she really wanted more was to connect on a deeper level with him.
With that being
said, here are some ideas around the notion of romance and being romantic...
1. Pay
attention to what your partner likes. If he/she likes surprises, surprise
him/her. If not, don't--even if you like surprises. Pay attention to your
partner's favorite things that they seldom indulge themselves in and then do
those things. It might be something your partner wouldn't buy or do for
themselves like buy a cd of their favorite music.
2. A romantic gesture can be
doing a very small thing. It might be after the kids are in bed, getting a bowl
of ice cream and two spoons--then sharing it. It might be putting the kids to
bed without being asked. It might be a hug or a foot rub. For Susie, a romantic
gesture is when Otto lovingly puts his hand on the back of her neck.
3. Romance can
be taking a trip down memory lane. Visit where you went on your first date or
some other place that holds significance for the two of you. It's very romantic
for the two of us to visit the natural setting where we went on our first date
and where we got married.
4. We've heard people say that
they are not romantic. If you've never considered yourself to be romantic and
never really wanted to be but your partner would like more "romance," you can
begin by changing your thinking. Instead of thinking that romance is something
artificial and outside yourself that you "do," you can begin thinking that
romance is merely ways of expressing your love that your partner will receive
and enjoy.
5.
What if you want more romance and your partner doesn't seem to? Be more
romantic and loving yourself in the way that your partner wants to be loved.
Start with little ways and just see what happens.
Romance and being romantic are
the things you do that bring you closer together and keep the spark alive.
Being romantic and finding romantic things to do is something that you or
anyone can do. You just have to open to more possibilities, have the desire
create special times with your partner or spouse and allow the ideas to flow
from love.
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Relationship coaches Susie
and Otto Collins, authors of "Should You Stay or Should You Go?" and "No More
Jealousy" are experts at helping people get more of the love they really want.
Learn the 5 keys to a closer, more loving relationship, click below for your
free 5-part mini-course: http://www.Relationshipgold.com
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