Great numbers of women have written to thank us for creating our “Where there’s smoke there’s fire: How to tell if your man’s a cheating liar”that is helping them ease their suspicions.
They are telling us how valuable this program is to help them know whether they have anything to be jealous or upset about in their relationships and marriages…
But there’s also a BIG problem brewing…
There is a FEAR coming up with many of our women readers that if they have jealousy issues, mistrust and suspicions, a program like this will only make the problem worse and not better. Here is an example of what we’re talking about including our response to this concern…
>>>Question From A Reader
Hi Susie and Otto,
Your new book title “Where There’s Smoke There’s Fire: How To Tell If Your Man Is A Cheating Liar” really intrigues me.
However, I feel like I already have so many wild negative suspicious thoughts– always being suspicious of my man– that if I read your book and see how other men are getting away with cheating, then I’ll suspect him even more. I feel like I am constantly on an emotional roller-coaster trying to make myself not voice my suspicions….
I usually find out later that it wasn’t true anyway….But our biggest problem is that he avoids telling me about his “encounters” with other women, because he knows I get jealous…..so then when I find out he has been somewhere that he doesn’t tell me about, I get more suspicious…. He outright lies to me even though I really don’t think he is cheating on me…..
It is so frustrating… sometimes I feel like I am going insane.
Anyway…. I may buy your book later. If I find out that some of my suspicions are true, then I would love to read your book. For now, I feel so vulnerable, it feels like your book would intensify my suspicions….
Am I wrong?
Frustrated and Suspicious
Dear Frustrated and Suspicious,
Thank you for writing to us about your concerns.
Please know that you are not going insane and we are here to help you.
If you’re with a man who is having “encounters” with other women and he won’t tell you where he’s been, what he’s been doing or who he’s been with, then we would
say that your suspicions, fears and jealous thoughts are certainly justified.
You say that he outright lies to you, but you don’t really think he is cheating.
You also say that you may buy our book later if you find out if your suspicions are true.
Pardon us for being so bold but…
We think you’ve got it backwards.
ANY woman who wants truth, honesty and a real commitment from a man would shudder and cringe to think that it’s OK to put up with behavior like this.
If you’re worried that our book and audio program would only intensify your suspicions, we would say that in your case our program may not be right for you and here’s why….
Our new book and audio program is for women who want help getting to the truth about whether or not a man is lying to them or cheating on them.
Our information and strategies have has helped women find out the truth in as little as 12 hours.
Based on what you wrote, the problem in your situation is that you already know the truth.
Your man is already lying to you and, by your own admission, is “having encounters” with other women.
In your particular case, you need to figure out what you want in your relationship and life and work towards having that.
If you want truth, honesty and a relationship with a man who’s committed to you and ONLY you…
…Then you’re probably going to want to not only rethink this relationship with your current man, but commit to creating some new boundaries that you really enforce in your life as you move forward (whether it’s with him or someone else).
If you’re jealous…
Our “No More Jealousy” program is the best-selling program in the world for stopping jealousy and it will help you get relief very quickly. You can get it here… http://www.relationshipgold.com/no-more-jealousy
The reason we created our new program focused on cheating and lying is this…
The first step in being able to heal any jealousy or mistrust issues is to find out whether or not the other person is really lying and cheating or not.
Many women and men go through much of their lives suspecting, thinking – and wondering about whether their partner is being truly faithful to them, but they don’t really know for sure. .
By going through our program, you won’t have to worry any more.
You’ll be able to let go of your fears or suspicions because the goal of the program is to help you get to the truth once and for all.
If you go through our program and find that your partner really isn’t cheating, then it’s time to look at other issues that you need to change and/or heal.
One final thing…
If you read about our program or even go through it and are worried that it will only make your suspicions worse…
We believe that the only way that our program could make your suspicions worse, is if you go through our program but don’t take any action.
In other words, people who are suspicious need to get to the truth so that they can make deliberate and fully conscious decisions.
This is the ONLY way to heal this issue…
With awareness and truth.
We also say that it’s not enough to get to the truth…
You must do something about it if what you find out isn’t acceptable to you– this applies whether or not your man truly is cheating and lying.
For more tips to create more passion, love and connection in your relationship, or for some great ideas for overcoming jealousy, get our free ebook “7 Jealousy Stopping Secrets.”