Communication

Here’s a great question from a reader that we think speaks to the communication issue that challenges most couples… “We want to stay connected during our difficult times too. What is the one thing we can do every time my husband and I are angry with each other as we work through the disagreement?” So […]

Like it or not, everyone (including you, us and everyone else) is selfish.We’d all like to think we’re not selfish but, we are.In our opinion, being selfish isn’t necessarily a bad thing. In fact, being selfish can actually be a good thing but here’s where the problem with being selfish comes in… Most of us

Have you ever felt frustrated when your partner (or anyone else for that matter) didn’t make some changes that you wanted them to make and because of this, you felt like you weren’t being respected? Most of us have felt that way at one time or another. We just wanted the other person to “respect”

Responsibility is a big word. You were probably taught to be responsible from a very young age. Whether it was in terms of helping out with a younger sibling, owning up to spilling milk on the floor or– now– keeping the agreements you made with family, friends, employers and even the laws of our community

Have you ever been in a situation where communication did not go as you wanted it to go and you wished you could do a U-turn and reverse what you’ve said, done or thought? We certainly have. Here’s a typical situation that comes up for many of us where it might be wise to do

Have you ever wondered how a casual conversation with your mate can somehow end up an argument? Maybe you two started out talking about something as mild as the weather and in some way one or both of you were triggered and ended up shutting down.If you’re tuned in to yourself and your partner, it

Have you ever said something to someone (like your partner) that you immediately knew was just the WRONG thing to say? Have you ever used words in a certain tone of voice, that as soon as you said them, you just KNEW that they weren’t what you meant to say or should have said?You probably

We agree with Dr. Phil on this one…In the June 2008 issue of the “Oprah Magazine,” Dr. Phil answers a woman’s question about how to deal with her sister who makes comments that are objectionable to her. The last time this woman talked with her sister, she was so angry with her that she hung

  Literally every relationship has had them– misunderstandings and arguments. It might have been a huge fight where either or both of you said or did things you now regret. Or it could have been a “quiet” miscommunication that left you feeling suspicious or very confused.Regardless of the intensity of the argument or misunderstanding, the

We’d like you to imagine for just a moment that there is an unlimited amount of love, passion, connection, abundance (and anything else that you want) available to you in your relationships and life.If this is true (and we believe that it is), then we’d like to ask you this question… What resistance to experiencing

For over a year now, we’ve been working with the idea of how to “stop talking on eggshells” and how to start communicating for closer, more loving and connected relationships. The surprising thing we’ve discovered is that you don’t always have to actually talk to do this.You can communicate in other ways. Otto’s father has

One of the most common problems in relationships is something so simple, yet can be so difficult at the same time. It’s the ability to say “no” without feeling like you are “hurting” the other person–and being okay with it. Now we realize that for some people, (maybe you’re one of them) this is a

Recently, we did an interview with our friend Michael Norwood about communication tips and he was excited about the 8 relationship-transforming words that we talked about.If you missed the interview, here’s a link to listen to it in its entirety.http://www.stoptalkingoneggshells.com/Interview/ It’s only about 27 minutes long and it’s well worth listening to if you want

Okay, we admit it…  The two of us really mis-communicated over the weekend about something that left us feeling angry and distant from each other. The situation was filled with misunderstanding, assumptions, unspoken meanings–and habitual responses that were more about the past than about that situation. Since we were putting the finishing touches on our

Oddly enough, there’s a relationship strategy that almost every tries at one time or another that they think will make things better but almost never does… Talk about a communication challenge-this is certainly one of the biggest! Here’s what frequently happens… When we are in a relationship with someone (especially our intimate partner or spouse)