How to Stop Foot-in-Mouth Disease

Have you ever put your foot in your mouth? No–not literally… We mean, have you ever said or done something that you would rather take back as soon as it came out–but since there’s no instant rewind button, you couldn’t? Have you ever tried to make some changes for the better in yourself and in […]

Relationship Advice for Knowing When to Keep the Peace and When to Speak Up

Here’s a great communication question that many people struggle with…” Sometimes, I just want to keep the peace, not rock the boat and just let things get better or blow over. I don’t want to argue, fight and stay mad all the time like I was in my previous relationship. Is this a good thing?”We […]

Is Silence Really Golden?

A couple of weeks ago, we went to the movies and right before the actual movie started, there was a 30 second commercial on the screen reminding us that “Silence is golden.” While this is helpful advice for a movie theater, we don’t think it works very well when it comes to communicating in relationships.The […]

Improve Communication Challenges by Fixing Problems While They’re Still Small

Just about every love relationship has some little irritating tendencies that both people resolve to put up with. It may be tensions over money or perhaps one person has a jealousy habit which strains the relationship. No matter what it is for you, it’s possible that you and your mate avoid the issue or ignore […]

Relationship Advice for Deeper Spark and Connection

Here’s something else we’ve discovered about creating a greater connection in your relationship and life that we want to share with you… One of the ways to create and keep spark is allowing yourself–as well as the other person–to be real, honest, and vulnerable.This may sound like a no-brainer but it seems that for many […]

How to Communicate about Tough Topics: Finances

Many of us grew up being read what are known as “tall tales.” These are stories that are sometimes based on a bit of history that get spun into exaggerated yarns that are adventurous and exciting. Kids’ eyes get wide as they picture a character like Paul Bunyan, the giant lumberjack, with his huge blue […]

Relationship Advice for Getting Your Communication Unstuck

What if ……you know you can do a better job of communicating and connecting with your partner (or someone else in your life) and you just don’t know where or how to start?Most of us feel that way at some time in our relationships and lives. Sometimes it’s a one-time challenge and other times you’ve […]

Communicating After Trust Has Been Broken: Impossible?

How do you keep the lines of communication open when something has happened to destroy trust in a marriage or relationship? The simple answer is that it’s pretty hard to do! If you’re human and you’ve been lied to or cheated on–your tendency is to probably shut yourself off from that person so you won’t […]

Relationship Advice for Communicating about Sex

You can’t help but hear or read about sexual intimacy on tv, the movies, in magazines and even song lyrics of all kinds. We’re not talking about pornography either! Sexual innuendo and intimacy-related references are almost everywhere. While sex is quite a popular topic in western culture, it’s not often such an easy or prevalent […]

Opening to Deeper Intimacy

One of the keys to more intimacy in your relationships and your life is to be open to the other people in your life.In Stephen Covey’s book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, one of the seven habits is to “seek first to understand and then be understood.” We think this is a great […]

What Happened to the Person I Married? How to Communicate Like You Did Before

One of the biggest challenges in relationships and marriages today is the fact that most couples don’t feel like they can truly be open, honest and straightforward with their partner or spouse like they used to when they were first together without them getting upset or angry. When you don’t feel safe to be able […]

Relationship Advice for How to Tell Your Truth

At one time or another, we all withhold from the people in our lives, especially in our communication with those we love. We usually do it because we don’t want to hurt them–or so the story goes in our heads–and we do it because we think it’s “best” for them.The fact is–we withhold our truth […]

Relationship Advice for Dealing with Conflict

You could have knocked us over with a feather when we realized this foundational relationship truth! In fact, we didn’t realize it at the time, but the whole soul mate mystique is based on this idea. Here’s what we’re talking about and it’s a really simple way of understanding relationships (especially ones that work and […]

Can You Be Too Honest in Relationships?

The other day, we were asked an interesting question about relationships… The question was– “How honest is too honest in relationships?” In other words, this person wanted to know if we thought you can damage a relationship if you are “too honest?” This question doesn’t just apply to intimate relationships or marriages. It applies to […]

5 Ways To Start Talking Again When You Stop

Recently the two of us really mis-communicated about something that left us feeling angry and distant from each other. The situation was filled with misunderstanding, assumptions, unspoken meanings–and habitual responses that were more about the past than about that situation. Since we had just gone through our “Magic Relationship Words” book for a class we […]