“What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” is an often quoted line from the famous philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche that unfortunately also describes a way that many people live their lives. While we know that sometimes you get into situations you’d rather not be in… …And it may be helpful to look at these situations and [...]

How many of us were raised with a belief in “Murphy’s Law?” This means if something can go wrong in a situation, chances are, it will. This belief is often (perhaps unconsciously) applied when it comes to parenting. Whether it’s preparing a kindergartner for the “inevitable” dropping of the lunch tray at school or the [...]

Wouldn’t it be great if you could wave a magic wand and the person you most want to be attracted to you (especially your current partner, spouse or lover) is head over heels in love with you and you really feel it at deep level? Whether you’re currently in a relationship or not… Wouldn’t that [...]

It’s not often that this happens to us but the truth is that most of us experience feelings of overwhelm at one time or another and lately that’s what we’ve felt. When it comes to feeling overwhelmed, one thing we know for sure is that it can play havoc with our marriage, as well as [...]

What if the physical attraction in your marriage used to be there–but now it’s gone? You love him (or her) but you can’t help but wonder just where did the physical attraction go.It used to be there but now you find you’re just pretending or worse yet, you’re numb and maybe don’t care. But the [...]

For your marriage to grow deeper in love and connection, gratitude has to be an attitude you carry with you every day. Gratitude is not only healthy for your relationship but it’s healthy for you physically and emotionally. It’s a fact that we’ve proven over and over in our own lives… When our thoughts are [...]

The word “dumb” usually has such negativity attached to it that you may be wondering what it has to do with creating a great relationship. In Susie’s family, her dad and his younger brother affectionately called each other “big dummy” and “little dummy”–when they did something that wasn’t very smart or for no reason at [...]

We’re often asked for relationship advice from couples who want to save their marriage but don’t know how. Here’s a big secret we’ve discovered… Make the commitment to not run away and hide when things get tough. One of the things we learned very early in our marriage was that we each had a tendency [...]

Some of it in our lives is good and some of it is not so good. And if the truth is told, we like drama as much as the next person does… But is it good for us and our relationship and life? For entertainment, we like to watch reality shows like “Dancing with the [...]

If there’s one common question we hear from people who have ended their marriages (or their partners ended them), it’s this… “Is there anything I could have done differently to save my marriage?” We’ve discovered that it’s not what you do at the last minute when your marriage’s in big trouble that makes a  difference… [...]

What are some of the things we do that get in the way of a close, connected and even passionate relationship or marriage? This is a good question and because we’re always asking ourselves how we can create more of what we want in our own relationship and how we can help facilitate that outcome [...]

Recently, we watched the movie “The Pursuit of Happyness” which gave us much food for thought about overcoming challenges while holding the vision for what you want.The story was based on parts of Chris Gardner’s life story and although we don’t want to spoil it for you if you haven’t seen it, the film is [...]

An instant relationship breakthrough is one moment when one or both of you make a shift to do, say or act differently and there’s an opening, a sense of understanding or feeling of connection and communion in the relationship. If your intention is to create these breakthroughs, then you will create the type of relationships [...]

So what do you think the #1 relationship question most married people ask themselves at some time during their marriage? Have you ever thought about it? Even in happy marriages (ours included), this question rolls through almost everyone’s mind at some point. If things aren’t going so well in your marriage, it comes up a [...]

Here’s a common issue for many people that we wanted to address in this week’s issue of our newsletter… It’s about the question of “do we have to grow apart over the years with people we are in relationships with?” and how do you restore closeness if you do grow apart? We get lots of [...]